Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Another hill to climb

Here we go again. A couple of weeks ago I mentioned we had another bump in the road with Mom. We now have all the details and its not great news. She has breast cancer. As if Alzheimer's isn't enough??

Basically we have 2 options, both with their own pros and cons. Chemo or radiation are not options. I have stressed and debated what to do, changing my decisions almost daily. Auntie and I decided to wait to see what the surgeon had to say before we decided. I was expecting him to present the options (which I already know) and then leave the decision to me. And I knew that if that happened I would torture myself wondering if I did the right thing.

I met with him yesterday. Honestly, I have never met such a kind, compassionate man. He was wonderful with Mom (and me). He understood how I was feeling, he didn't try to rush us. He was patient with Mom, even as she resisted some of the examination. And he wasn't all wishy-washy with his advice. He very clearly expressed his recommendation and then we discussed it. I felt completely comfortable with him.

He has completed the report as an emergency case so we were able to book the surgery quickly. Next week we have pre-op and anesthesia consultations and her surgery will be February 14th.

It's been a bit of a roller coaster ride but now we have a plan. So I'm going to try and not dwell on it and put my trust in someone else.
I will get around to visit all of your blogs soon. I've been reading them but not commenting much. Now you know why.

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  1. Oh I am so very sorry for you and your mother.
    what a very hard time this is for you.
    I am so glad you have a Dr you can trust to have your mom's best intrest.
    keeping you in my prayers.

  2. Oh Kim, I am so sorry for this latest mountain. I am glad you have a professional who is not making you go it alone. Happy thoughts! xoxox

  3. Kim,
    Please know you and your dear Mom will be in my thoughts and prayers. It's hard to imagine what you must be going through! I'm so glad your Dr. is kind and compassionate and that you have full confidence in him.
    Stay strong dear friend!!
    Cathy G

  4. Gosh I feel for you. My mom who has AD is overdue for her mammogram and I have always been terrified of what I would do if something were found. Perhaps this is a sign for me to get it done. Meanwhile, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as I know AD is plenty I itself. Happy you have he right doctor! Remember to take care of yourself!

  5. I'm sorry you have to go through this, my heart hurts for you. You and your Mom are in my prayers.

  6. I'm beginning to hate the color pink..truly this disease is the pits and I can only imagine what you're going through. I'm so glad you found a wonderful, caring Doc. They are sometimes few and far between. It sounds like your Mom will receive the best care. I'll keep you and your Mom in my prayers. Your plate is so full...please take care.

  7. Kim ~
    Keeping you and mom in my prayers.
    Thankfully you found a compassionate doctor you can trust and don't have to decide the course of treatment on your own.
    Big hugs :)

  8. Oh Kim, I'm so sorry you and your mother are having to deal with all this. I'm so glad the surgeon is a compassionate man that you are comfortable with. That makes a big difference I'm sure.

  9. You know how I feel and how I hurt for you all. I will continue to pray.
    I am so glad you have a good doctor.
    Hang in there.

  10. When it rains, it pours... I'm so sorry you all have to be going through this. I'm glad you have a good doctor, they make a world of difference. I'm also glad you can get her into surgery fast, so you don't have to sit and wait very long. I will be praying for all of you to get through this smoothly. *hugs*

  11. Evening akin, such sad news, so sorry to hear that about your Mother.....Wimmkeep your Mom in my prayers....Blessings Francine.

  12. Oh Kim, such sad news. It makes my heart feel heavy to hear this. This is heavy burden to bear and I am glad that a least you have a compassionate doctor to look after your mom. It's not going to be easy especially in your mom's condition.
    I'll add her on my prayer list and will keep on praying every night that all goes well as can be.

    I'm sending you much love and prayers
    PS. You don't have to worry about my blog, you have enough on your plate right now and I truly understand. I don't blog that often anyway.


  13. Kim, I'm so sorry!!!
    Thank goodness you have a doctor who is understanding and supportive. You and your Mom and Auntie will certainly be in my prayers.

  14. Oh Kim, I'm so sorry. You, your mother and your aunt will be in my nightly prayers. Hang in there.

    Don't worry about commenting on blogs. You have a lot on your plate right now.

  15. Prayers for you and your family. One huge step in the right direction is having a doctor you are comfortable and confident with... and it sounds like you have been blessed with that. Hugs!

  16. Kim I am so sorry. You and your Mom will be in my prayers, you know that! Thank heavens you have a kind and compassionate Dr. to work with your Mom.

  17. You know how I feel, girlfriend!! You are Wonder Woman and we know you can do anything! Bless your mama as she goes thru this and know that we're here for you!

  18. So glad you have an excellent doctor to lean on. don't worry about us-we will be here for you.

  19. So sorry to hear your bad news. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.


  20. Boy Kim, that really does suck. Hang in there. You're in my thoughts.

  21. Good afternoon Kim. I am sorry to read your mom has breast cancer. A compassionate and positive physician is so important to a patients well being and their healing process.I am glad your dear mom is in good hands. Sending prayers to all, Julie.

  22. Kim, there's not a thing I can say that will allay the anxiety, fear, anger, worry or stress that has been set at your doorstep with this turn of events for your mom....

    I think I can take the liberty of saying all of your readers are 'here for you' - and I hope you'll lean on us (blog or email) if any/all of us can help in any way(s). To listen, to provide diversion - whatever you need, whatever helps you.

    Life and love , the living and the caring about someone, are far from simple. Miles from easy. You're so strong (a blessing AND a curse) I know you'll find your way thru all this step by step. But strength has nothing to do with how to deal the heartache of 'why'?, the question of how life could deal yet another cruel blow to both your mom and yourself....

    A heartfelt hug to you, your mum, your aunt, and hey another hug for you...(I think you need and deserve two hugs)


  23. Kim my heart goes out to you your Mom and your family. Cancer sucks and life is not fair.
    You have more than enough on your plate and you need a break.
    Lot's of love and hugs go out to you.
    Will keep you in our prayers.

  24. so sorry! blessings to you and many prayers for you and your mom!

  25. Sending many prayers for you and your Mother.

  26. What a wonderful daughter you are. I to am sorry.
    Praying for strength for you and your mom. I will be praying.
    Sending you a giant hug

  27. Kim, I know what you are going through is not an easy road. Being a caregiver can really be stressful that much I know. Finding this out it makes all the difference to have a doctor like you have found. He in a way is god sent because of being caring for both of you. Just know that you are in my heart and prayers. Keep us posted. Hugs and Prayers coming from Your Missouri Friend.

  28. Kim, I am so sorry there is another mountain to go over. I will put you both on my prayer list, Hugs Cheri

  29. Like you and your mum didn't have enough on your proverbial plates already??? very sorry to read (belatedly) this news. You know I will keep you and her in my most heart-felt and fervent prayers. But I rejoice in the fact that you are blessed with a compassionate and seemingly competent physician. As someone above me has already remarked, they can be few and far between. My mother has been having series of strokes for the past 6 months or so...she has been hospitalized repeatedly - my brother, niece, and I all KNOW what is happening, and have told the drs - but, until the last one last week, we were dismissed. Unfortunately, each one took a larger chunk of "her" and her memories....

    My mother stopped getting mammograms years ago. I urged...then pleaded...and now have succumbed to her wishes. Is that wrong? Is it right? Or is it just what it is? Sometimes my head and heart grow weary at that same time....

    Wishing you both healing, comfort, and solace....Hugs ~ Robin

  30. My Dear Sweet Kim my heart is breaking for you and will keep you and your mom in my prayers.
    I wish there were something I could do for you but know that I am here for you.
    Lifting you both up in prayer.
    Take care of you!
    Love ya